Why Helping Others is My Favorite Place to Be
By: Kevin Petersen
Parenting is tough. Dealing with addiction is tough. And dealing with addiction as the parent of an addict is even tougher.
Every relationship with an addict has a caregiver: someone who tries to pick up the pieces of the addict’s life, mend them back together or cover up for the addict’s faults. Often, this caregiver is a parent. And even more often, this parent-caregiver becomes a codependent.
A healthy parent helps an addict overcome his or her addiction and take steps towards recovery. A codependent is someone who enables one’s addiction, poor behavior or irresponsibility. But what makes you a good parent to an addict or a codependent to an addict?
Let’s take a step back: while everyone has different parenting styles, certain parenting styles can become codependent in nature. And in effect, this leads the addict in a downward spiral with no path to recovery in sight.
So where does healthy parenting end and codependency start? And how does a healthy parent stay a good parent and help their child towards recovery, rather than become the codependent caregiver?
I can help. I’ve been in all the roles: I was the caregiver and child of an addict; I became an addict; I am a recovering addict who has built a career out of helping others overcome addiction and codependency. While some therapists who specialize in addiction therapy graduated with a master’s degree in a related field, I did this, too plus personally experienced all the roles associated with addiction.
If you’re the parent of the addict, I’m sure you’ve been through all the scenarios: you’ve complained that your child is out of control; you’ve taken them to therapists but it doesn’t seem to work; you’re ready to give up.
But don’t. And I’m excited to help you. My upcoming book captures all methods, advice, tips and tricks you should use to help your loved one overcome his or her addiction and take the road towards recovery. After all, I have been in all the roles – and see how it all panned out: I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist and work primarily with families who are struggling with addiction. It’s my favorite place to be: helping others.
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